"I'm the Problem"

While it hasn't been long since my last post, I felt this was important to share in the moment as it resonated in my head. I dont know who else has jumped on the Morgan Wallen band wagon, but his music moves me and speaks to me in some kind of way. Part of the purpose of this site is to provide song reviews and I know I have been lacking in that department. However, this is going to be a different kind of review.

The title of this blog is the same as the song that I will be referring to tonight. I chose this because this song really makes me think, like deep, meaningful thoughts. I say this because I honestly believe that this song is a great representation of a man's though process. Now, I will warn you, this post may rub some female readers wrong at first, but I urge you to stick with me and if nothing else, gain the insight of one mans thoughts.

From start to finish, this song embodies the disconnect between most couples. I know it hits hard like a reality check when I listen to it. If you haven't heard the song, give it a listen, but I will break down the basics for you. Essentially, Morgan is stating the common conception that when things hit the fan, it is the man's fault. This story is literally as old as time, and while sometimes true, he puts his twist on the end. "And it got me to thinkin, if I'm the problem, you might be the reason". This lyric is where I may lose some of you, because it is absolutely the truth.

If you are still with me, good for you, and thank you. I say that this is absolutely the truth for a few reasons. While I can only speak for myself, I believe that a majority of why men do things can be attributed to a woman in one way or another. This is true for the good and the bad. For instance, you have probably heard the expression "behind every successful man. there is a strong woman". The same sentiment can be used for a host of other iterations. The reason being that, for a man, the sun rises and sets with his woman, or at least it should. So, in a way, every success, every setback, and every action can, in one way or another, be tied to that woman.

"And your miss never do no wrong", this line gets me because while it is not always the intent in a situation, for many reasons it becomes the reality. Now, if I still have your attention, let me say that I must admit that we men are creatures of impulse and there are plenty of times that we do things or say things without giving them a second thought. However, I encourage you to really consider how many times you (as women) have been wrong or overstepped and we actually made you take acountability for it. I want you to also think, how many of those times has your man supported you, knowing full well that you were both wrong at that point. "Happy wife, happy life" is where we often reside in these situations.

Now comes the part where I hope my “Queens”are still reading, and I hope my fellow men take a pause to give some thought and consideration. "You might be the reason" is only true becasue we men are doing our best to muster through the complexity of your brain and our own fallacies. I can pretend to understand or predict my wife's thoughts or reasoning, but in reality, I am just doing the best I can and more often than not, I am way off base. When this happens, I become the problem. I become the problem because I allow myself to buy into my own interpretation and my sense of the definition of those thoughts. I react according to how I perceive the situation. However, women are not without their faults, because it seems as though they welcome this behaivor and give us the opportunity to show our backside. While I believe this is intended to become a lesson to us, unfortunately it becomes the battle rhythm.

With all of that said, we as couples tend to let this be the norm, we allow ourselves to believe that this back and forth is needed. However, it isn't, and I would much rather be the problem AND the reason because I would at least be able to fix that. But I have to agree with Morgan in the fact that we men are the problem, and whether intentional or not, women are the reason. Sit and think for a minute about all the situations you have been through, interpret the song how you feel, and let me know if you think I am wrong.

To end on a lighter note, whether Morgan is right or wrong, doesn't really matter. We can all do better, expecially when we consider our life partners. Find someone who brings out the best version of you and give yourself the grace when you aren’t that best version every time. We can both be the problem as well as the solution, we just have to make that choice from the beginning.

Spectacular song Morgan, thank you for giving me something worth my review.

~the mindful musician